#19 Let him know he’s doing something right. Most of the time they appreciate a guy’s persistence and confidence. Be appreciative, be warm, and let him know that you like him too. I’m not sure why we’ve all of a sudden taken it upon ourselves to change the structural makeup of a guy’s mind, but I’m telling you right now, it’s pointless. A guy will only listen to the woman he loves. A guy can invest more or less in a relationship depending on how much he values it at that moment and how well his chemistry is with the other person - on the surface this can appear as if he is changing for a different girl. If you are dating or married to an emotionally unavailable man, your best hope is that he sees the problem and seeks help. And the truth is it does not feel good. There’s a better option out there! 5. BUT just remember not to put up with anything he does to offend you. Still, there are other reasons to get to know her friends. 4. Over time, and with enough effort, you can change the way you think, feel, and act. The more respect you can show as you pursue her, the better. You crush's friends are a good barometer as to whether your crush is the right person for you. Most girls love to be pursued by a guy, or viewed as someone special. Myth: Disagreements always create problems in a relationship. If a guy is chasing you and trying to woo you, you need to appreciate his efforts. Suddenly, our vision for the future starts to revolve around her. Meanwhile, everything else becomes a little less important. It can help you determine if the girl is right for you. You actually want to get to know her. Try again! It is exhausting to be in any find of romantic relationship from dating to marriage where you are constantly change someone. In the past, you might have just been about the hookup or something casual. Don’t change for a boy (or a girl, or anyone). You can learn about her interests, her maturity level, and her humor. And the reason it is exhausting is because it is not possible. Honestly, it’s kind of a shock to our system, which is why guys can sometimes be fearful of commitment. But more than anything, a girl wants to be respected and valued. The only person you can change is the one reading these words right … This is a mistake that nearly all women make - and some women make over and over and over and never learn from - but it almost never works out for them. But you find yourself wanting to learn all about this girl and take things slow. And you should NEVER, EVER start something with a guy hoping you're going to change him, because 99.9% of the time, you aren't going to change him. Men do it, and so do women, but not without extensive work. When you meet the right girl, you don’t want anyone else to be with her. An emotionally unavailable man who can’t love must see his closed-off emotions as a problem and want to make a change. Don’t be the entitled girl who just expects a guy to do everything for her. With the right resolution skills, conflict can also provide an opportunity for growth in a relationship. Fact: Conflict doesn’t have to be negative or destructive. I have 30 years old. Don’t change yourself just so that you won’t be alone. From a man that used to be a player.. players dont change because a girl wants them to change they change by themself.. and most likely it would be in a time when they are alone.. meaning not in a relationship.. but the truth is that I player will always be a player.. disclaimer: I am not a player anymore.. But when that vision starts to change, it’s a sign that we’re with the right person. 1. It has to be you and you’ll do anything to make that happen. Fourth, give the chase a rest Well, ladies, from a guy's perspective, there are some things the man in your life will only do for you if he truly, wholeheartedly loves you.